Cindy is always reading and searching for more information on how she can be a better homeschool mom. Recently, she called us all together for a brief but meaningful family meeting. She has been reading a book entitled, "Life Skills for Kids" by Christine M. Field. Below are a few of the paragraphs.
My husband describes the present generation as the IDI generation - "I deserve it." He has traced much of this self-centeredness to the parental belief that caring for a child consists primarily of giving in to all of that child's demands and wants, irrespective of any regard for the future outcome of this indulgence. These children cannot help but grow up with the attitude that the universe revolves around them and that they deserve any trinket or big-ticket item that they think they want - regardless of whether they can afford it.
Lest you think we are hopelessly old-fashioned (which we are), we believe that hard times are the norm for life. Being a Christian does not guarantee a problem-free life. Overindulging our children robs them of the opportunity to learn that we must not look for all of life to meet our hopes and expectations. And it robs them of the chance to learn little by little to handle adversity; it leaves them unprepared for facing hard times when they make their inevitable appearance.
In a recent article advising employers about the so-called Generation X young person, the author notes several important characteristics about this group. They are likely to have witnessed more violence, thanks to television, than any other generation in history. They often grew up too fast, usually home alone too often while their parents strove for the American dream. They have less loyalty and commitment to the workplace than previous generations, take longer to make their initial job choices, are likely to be highly computer-literate, often question authority figures because their parents weren't around to tell them what to do, and often have unrealistic and materialistic views. "Whether from watching TV or from being spoiled by their guilt-ridden, seldom home parents or grandparents, X'ers have come to expect a whole lot for nothing. They have a strong propensity for instant gratification, wanting it all and wanting it fast," the author notes. They want the perks of work, without the hassle. "They would like their world to be filled with the same good-looking people, dressed in the latest fashions, with lots of money and prestige, and without having to work too hard."
1. Children come into this world expecting and demanding. (Example: 2:00 a.m. feedings.) It is a parent's responsibility to gradually reprogram their little minds into servant mode.
2. Even adults have a propensity for selfishness. We tend to default to entitlements rather than servanthood. For this reason, we must be ever vigilant to guard ourselves from selfishness.
3. Unlike the popular myths of heavenly harp-playing cloud drifters, I believe eternity, for the Christian, will be filled with assignments and adventures. In some ways, we are preparing now for the jobs that await us then.
The greatest joys in life come when we embrace our true nature. We were designed to function, to be creative, to work. One of the most important gifts we could ever give our children, our culture, our God is a celebration of that nature. This holiday season, let's put thanks back in THANKSgiving and Christ back in CHRISTmas! Let's make it real!
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